I thought I’d share something different with you this New Year’s Day.
There’s a list of 101 Lolita Lifestyle Ideas on egl made by skyewishes in 2005. Please read through it if you like; it’s pretty fun, but it is 10 years old.
This here is my list of ideas for ways to make your lifestyle a little more lolita, partially inspired by the list on egl. Visit my Lifestyle Ideas page to see this same list, with links to relevant posts/sites. This post is meant to be printer-friendly.
I tried to focus on ideas for the lone lolita, but there’s no reason that you can’t do some of the things with friends or your comm.
- Learn the Victorian language of flowers and use it in your everyday life.
- Get a penpal. They don’t have to be a lolita at all, and you can write letters about whatever.
- Start keeping a diary or a journal.
- Make a scrapbook or album with printed photographs of all your coords.
- Be like Queen Victoria and keep an album/catalogue of all your things (specifically your lolita pieces). A lot of us already do the hard work required for this every year for the January wardrobe posts.
- Press flowers and leaves. Use them to decorate a diary, scrapbook, card, etc.
- If you have the option, paint your walls and coordinate the wall colors and trim. You could also look into putting up wallpaper if you want to splurge a little more.
- Instead of putting up plain posters or pictures in your room/house/dorm, frame them. Taped-up posters and prints make a room seem slip-shod and cluttered. (Plus, then the posters gather dust.) Painting a bunch of mismatched frames is also a great way to add an accent color to your space that might be hard to incorporate otherwise, like gold.
- If you own a lot of mismatched furniture, paint it (and reupholster it if you can do that on your own) to give it new life and to give the room a more cohesive feel.
- Cover or decorate your computer desk. Computers are fantastic, but the cables are unsightly. You can spread a lace tablecloth over the whole desk, or use fabric and tension rods to make under-desk curtains/table skirts to hide the cable mess and give you some hidden storage.
- Keep your space (your section of a dorm, bedroom, apartment, house, etc.) clean and tidy. If you’re going to display the things you love or change your space to suit your aesthetic, you want to make sure there isn’t any mess or stray clutter to distract and detract from your hard work.
- Make sure your bedclothes match your lolita aesthetic. If you can’t afford or don’t want a fancy comforter, then at least make a simple, ruffled bed skirt.
- Replace your morning alarm tone with birdsong or ringing church bells (or ice cream truck music or whatever else will fit your idea lolita life).
- Get a house robe in colors inspired by your wardrobe or a pair of plush lolita-esque slippers so you can start your day right away with a special, cuddly dose of the lifestyle.
- Repackage your shampoo, conditioner, lotion, etc., into cuter bottles. Get a set of squeeze bottles or pumps in a color you like, and then refill them with your regular products. Make sure you have labels or some other way to distinguish between them, though!
- Have your pets share in your lolita lifestyle. Get your dog a lavender pastel dog bed, tape an appropriately sized print-out of the Dream Marine or Twinkle Mermaid print to the back of your fish/turtle/snake tank, put your cat’s food in brand-released novelty plates, and so on. (Just make sure any modifications are still functional for your pets!)
- If you have a garden or a nice view of nature, eat your breakfast outside and appreciate the beauty around you. Even if you don’t live anywhere near green spaces or trees, maybe eat your breakfast outside anyway to feel the potential breeze.
- Try and wear lolita accessories with your non-lolita outfits. Hair pieces can be a bit much, but you can pin a smaller bow or rosette to a regular cardigan, for instance.
- Use a lolita bag as your regular, everyday handbag/purse. Coordinate it to your non-lolita outfit just as you would match it to your coords.
- If using a full lolita bag is not an option, switch your wallet to a cute, loliable one.
- Always carry a waterproof parasol (or pretty umbrella) on your walks to protect you from the sun, rain, and snow, even if you aren’t wearing lolita.
- Keep a pretty handkerchief with you, and spread it over public seats (like those on public transportation and park benches) before sitting down.
- Take simple, cute bento boxes for lunch. They don’t have to be super time-consuming and elaborate, but I think a dose of cuteness in the middle of the work/school day does wonders for the soul.
- If you have the opportunity to take some classes, try learning things that connect to your ideas of a lolita lifestyle. Learn calligraphy, millinery, design, art history, or whatever fits your life.
- Make your lounge clothes lolita-inspired. Instead of sweat pants and a T-shirt, hang out in long bloomers made of flannel, fleece or something else that’s cuddly, and a cutsew OP.
- Find music that gets you in a lolita frame of mind. This could be anything from Malice Mizer, to Motzart, to songs from Disney movies.
- Whenever you get the chance, brew your tea in a teapot instead of making a mug-sized portion with a tea bag. (If loose-leaf tea is not your thing, then you can just use the single serving tea bags in the tea pot. The extra bit of ceremony is what you’re after.)
- Make time to sit quietly, drink tea or cocoa, and relax every day. Use this as a time to put problems in perspective or to look forward to (or reminisce on) the day. Even the busiest people have a spare 15 minutes. No matter what is going on, it’s important that you love and take care of yourself, too.
- Make your cups, glasses, plates, bowls, etc., fit your lolita lifestyle. Maybe that means replacing any and all drinkware with tea cups. Maybe that means making sure all your china has gold or silver detailing. Maybe that means your plates, bowls, and cups are all officially licensed Hello Kitty merchandise.
- Find a way to infuse something lolita-esque into non-dessert food. Maybe you’ll make meatloaf “cupcakes” with mashed potato “frosting,” or maybe you’ll replace a regular rice side dish with pink rice.
- Bake desserts, and then share your creations with neighbors, family, co-workers, or classmates. Spread the joy!
- Write thank you cards for every gift you receive. If you don’t often get presents, write thank you notes if someone does something particularly nice or helpful for you.
- Replace your plain post-it notes and paper pads with pretty stationery.
- Replace/modify your writing utensils with/into lolita ones. You can write with a quill and ink, a red pen filled with fake blood, or you can just put a cute bat or coffin topper on your existing pencils and pens. (It’s easy to use sweet or classic themes revamp your writing implements, too.)
- Learn to embroider things, and then add embroidered details to your clothes. If you can’t wear a big, lacey Peter Pan collared blouse to your job, you might be able to embroider the collar and cuffs of plain shirt with little details. (That probably won’t work if you have to wear a uniform, though.) You can also customize your lolita wardrobe this way, especially if you have a dominant color scheme or a dominant visual theme (like hearts or cherries).
- Watch some lolita-esque movies. There are also television shows and short films with lolita characters in them.
- Play a lolita board game or card game. This is also a fun, casual way to enjoy the hobby with supportive non-lolitas or people who don’t understand yet why you love this fashion.
- Make (or buy) a pair of lolita pajamas. Bloomers and a camisole would work, but so would a flowing nightgown. Pick whichever one suits your style and climate.
- Read fairy tales or nursery rhymes before you go to bed. If you have someone who can read aloud to you, ask them to do so. These stories are much better when you can actually hear them.
- Build or get a dollhouse, and decorate it as you would your lolita dream house. This is especially helpful if you can’t decorate or change your own living space.
- Start a library or collection of books, poems, manga, etc., that speaks to your lolita aesthetic. You don’t have to buy beautiful, expensive, leather-bound editions to start a collection, either. There are so many wonderful, old texts for free online, and you can always borrow books from your local library if you like reading from the physical objects.
- Buy or make a doll, and dress it in lolita or ouji. This can be anything from an official brand collaboration with Pullip to an old doll purchased at a thrift store. If human dolls freak you out, you can dress up a plushie or a stuffed toy rabbit or cat.
- Illustrate your favorite stories or books using lolita characters. If the text you’re illustrating is online, you can even print it out and paste in your illustrations where you want them to go. Then you’ve got an amazing custom version of your favorite story. How cool is that?
- If visual arts are not your thing, try rewriting a story/novel with a lolita aesthetic. I think this is a lot of fun. Make Dorian Gray a lolita. Write an adventure for Alice in a world based off a lolita print, like Milky Planet or Guilty Meltin’ Sweets Town.
- Take up photography, or start photographing things other than your coords and possible selfies. Take pictures of what you think is beautiful and of small details you notice.
- Speaking of coord photography, plan elaborate photoshoots for yourself. Set up a background/location, some props, and a perfectly themed coord. If you don’t have a friend to help, try taking pictures with a tripod. (If you have a friend who’s one of those mythical photographers willing to do work for free just to build their portfolio, this might be a good project to talk to them about.)
- Sing, or play piano (or basically any other musical instrument). Act like an accomplished middle-to-upper-class girl from the 19th century and entertain your household with your talents.
- Start a flower garden, or take care of a pretty potted plant. Make sure your gardening equipment and/or pots are in your preferred color scheme.
- Assuming you have a bathtub, take a bath every now and then, and luxuriate in warm, scented water with bubbles or rose petals floating on the surface. Be safe if you want to light candles or listen to music while you’re in the tub!
- Next time you travel, try and make time to do some new lolita-esque things to do that you might not be able to do at home, i.e. visit a rose garden, spend time in a beautiful and stately library, go see a historical home or graveyard, and so on. If you get a chance to visit a brand shop or a nice antique store, take a look around.